And we have a winner!

Join me as I follow the Mormon Bachelorette Ashley from Arizona! 

The dates don't start until July, but once they do- I'll be giving my input on how they go. 

She seems great, this should be fun!

Coincidence

I went out for a girls night with some friends from work.
After dinner we all went our separate ways.
I had just arrived home when I get a phone call from a guy from work named Josh. He wanted to go get a late night treat, and wanted me to join him.
As soon as I got of the phone with him I called up my girlfriends from dinner and asked them if they had just talked to him?! He had come up in our conversation earlier, since we all know him, but none of them had said anything to him...

So I had a fine time at ice cream, but did feel a bit like he was lecturing me about life. It is also a big turn off when guys are judgmental of people. I love quirky people, and though they may have weird things about them I treasure them, not point them out and laugh... Not my fave topics of conversation, but I do enjoy a random late night adventure.

 

Define-

What defines a date? 
I always thought that you needed to hear the word "date" to classify it as such.... but now I'm not so sure.


I went to a movie with the BEAUTIFUL Jake Gyllenhaal. 

He asked me to go with him over text, and never mentioned the "d" word. But he did pay for the movie. 


So.... 

date or not a date? 

I just figured not to classify it as such unless I hear the date word. But when a friend asked about my weekend and I told him about my outing, he asked if Jake paid, and said since he did it WAS a date. 


I don't know! 
Webster, that knowledgeable bloke, defines a date by :  an appointment for a particular time, esp with a person to whom one is sexually or romantically attached.
That defines it all by the emotional attachment. 


Well, I think I'm still confused, and will stay with the answer of obliviousness, unless he calls it a date too. What do you think? How do you define your outings with the opposite gender?


I think the real answer to my problem is that MEN NEED TO SPECIFY what we are doing! then there will be no question.

Sometimes...

Sometimes it's really hard to be a good friend.
I have a girlfriend who has been trying to decide whether she should break up with her boyfriend or marry him. She really loves him, and wants to be with him, but isn't sure if they will make each other happy for the rest of their lives. 
Personally, I am not a fan, and see ALL the reasons why she should move on. How she could do so much better. 
It's hard to be there for her when she wants him anyway. 
It's just hard to be supportive of something I don't really like. 
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And now can I just tell you that if some specific people in my life knew that I was saying all this they would be shaking their heads in disbelief. Because I've been on the receiving end. Having my heart just want someone SO bad, even when it is a corrosive want. 
Love is hard. Emotions complicate everything. What should be clear a night and day, gets all messed up with feelings and such. 


Sometimes, it's just hard. 

Gentlemen:

Here are some tips for all men out there: 

1. If you know the girl really, really liked one of your close friends, don't try and hit on her. It's just weird.

2. Also when talking to said girl, don't bring up the fact that she was interested in other boy.

3. If you set up a specific time that you have plans to do something with said girl, it could be considered a date. (if there is a time, like 8:30 we are doing such-and-such, then this applies.)

-So if # 3 applies remember these few tips: 

#1 don't wear sweats to pick up said girl

#2 pay for her when you order food

#3 if you want to treat it like a casual hang out, then don't try and set the mood to  "get-some"

4. Then when it is later in the week, don't text to ask her to do something again. She didn't have fun.

remember this: BE A MAN AND CALL AND ASK HER ON A REAL DATE. then at the end of the night the results might be different. (at least she may not try to completely avoid you)

Dear male who did said wrongs. We shall dub you Mike Myers. 

Well, now you tell me!

I was talking to a friend recently, and they made comment about how the city I am living in is very cliquey. 

So it's not just me that feels this way?!? I thought it was just me that was having a hard time feeling like one of the crowd.  

Just yesterday I walked into a ward activity and turned to my roommate and asked, "is it just me, or is everyone looking at us?"  Her response was, "no, because they all are!"  

I thought that once I got out of high school, that I wouldn't have to deal with petty people. How wrong I am. 

The Review

I saw this weekend, the long awaited movie, Something Borrowed. 


Can I first off let you know that this man, is BEAUTIFUL!

Total Dream-Boat!


But...


I still LOVE this man-

My opinion on the movie? I loved the actors, some of my favorite. But...  They try and take something TERRIBLE (cheating) and make it into something romantic.  It was a roller coaster ride, deciding whether I like the Dex character or not. In the end, I just didn't know how to feel about the whole thing. But, I am pretty practical, and the disturbing circumstances of the whole movie made it hard for me to love. 

My advice: don't pay 9+ dollars to see it in theaters. 

SPOILER ALERT: DO NOT READ UNLESS YOU'VE ALREADY SEEN IT!!!

Now for more of my feelings about specific things:

Did I call it about Ethan or what?! Ok, so he really isn't gay, but  he DID pretend to be! I laughed so hard when he said that he was!

They make you love Ethan and then he ends up with no one. Personally I was over Dex by the end. He was a coward, a good looking one, but one none the less. Rachel should have realized she loves Ethan, the one who puts her first, and pushes her to be better than she is.  This is the major reason I'm not in love with the movie.

I also felt really bad for Rachel. Darcy is a WITCH, and Rachel should have called her out on it, but always just endured. Like Ethan said "if the roles were reversed, Darcy wouldn't even hesitate." 

PS- the F bomb was totally unneeded in the show. 

And the whole scene at the Hamptons when you can hear the love birds upstairs, was sick and wrong. If Dex didn't love Darcy why was he still with her at all?  

eNErgY

I've been told that guys can tell when you are available. Like you send off this signal, that even if you haven't talked in ages, that they can pick up on. You don't even have to make contact, but they just know. 

Well, I think I can attest that this is truth. I was really stuck on Ed, I know, I'm pitiful, and seriously since then haven't gone on a single date. 

Then last week, I realized that I needed to really just move on. I was holding onto this false hope, a hope for something I didn't really even want: Ed. (once I get attached I have a really hard time letting go...)

So as I decided this, all these guys have been giving me attention. One guy who has known me for a while and then out of the blue asked me for my number, and is now pursuing me. Another guy randomly called me up and asked me if I could do something with him when we have never hung out in the past year of knowing each other. And yet another guy has come into my life, and told me he wants to take me out sometime.  

Seriously, around this place it's feast or famine. I actually would love a nice long dating experience. Instead of this roller coaster ride of dating periods. Though as I'm on the uphill, I'm not complaining.  

All the Single Ladies

I have a new favorite:

Click here: The Mormon Bachelorette

For those of you who are wondering if this is for real, it is, and it's great. To explain how it works read this post. Aubrey was the first, she was coaxed into it by her roommates, the producers of the blog. And guess what?! Out of all craziness... it worked for her! See here.  

So now they are accepting applicants for the new bachelorette...  (any of you single ladies brave enough to sign up?!)

As you can tell, I have done my research, and find it super entertaining. Join me as I follow along on these dates, and give my view on how they went. As for right now, I don't know how they are going to pick the new bachelorette, they all seem so amazing and deserving! 

inspire

"Some blessings come soon, 

some come late, 

and some don't come until heaven; but for those who embrace 

the gospel of Jesus Christ, 

they come."

-Jeffery R. Holland

FATE

I don't believe in signs, but I do believe in God's tender mercies. That as we make hard decisions, He gives us sweet gifts to help ease a burden. These gifts can be things like random acts of kindness, or a coincidence that makes a trial easier. Whatever it is, I know that they are given to us to help us in our time of need. 


I also know that God has a sense of humor. Some days it is more apparent in my life than others, just look at some of these dating experiences. The task is to see the humor in it all. 


I've been told that there isn't such a thing as a "soul mate."  As nice as it would be to have the cop-out of saying that I'm waiting for the "one," I know that each relationship has problems, and some rough edges. That no matter who I marry, if we are both striving to make things work, to grow and progress together, that I will be happy. That we will be happy. And that love, that true, pure love -a forgiving, evolving, patient love- can last, and I can find and have it.