you would think

i went on a blind date with Topher Grace

he was taller than me, but slumped in his chair and I felt like I towered over him in the car.


He also didn't have much to say. Lots of silence.


Though the activity was really fun. I love comedy shows. 


Biggest problem of this date:
his lack of confidence. I need someone who is more confident than me. Who will step up so I don't have to. I don't like planning the date you ask me out to, and I don't like having to make every decision down to where we sit. I want to be part of an equal relationship, not wear the pants. 


This might have a really interesting follow up story coming. He basically asked me out for a second date at the end of the night. WHAT WOULD WE TALK ABOUT ON THE SECOND DATE IF WE RAN OUT OF THINGS TO SAY ON THE FIRST? I didn't know what to tell him so I said "sure, I'm just really busy..." We'll see how these avoiding techniques pan out. Maybe I'll just have to give into a ice cream date or something. 


I always date nice guys, guys who are going to make some girl really really happy. Just not me. 

He bought me SOCKS… it must be love!

I went on my date…

It went well…

He was CUTE!

I had a lot of fun! It was just really chill, we went to dinner and then bowling.

I wore heels (skinny jeans and my heels: I rocked it) but I didn’t get the memo about bowling. This means I felt doomed to put my feet in disgusting bowling shoes, unprotected by socks. Considering I didn’t even know his name before he introduced himself, it’s not really his fault.  When we showed up at the bowling alley he was so sweet and immediately asked about it and bought me some socks there. I didn’t even have to bring it up again.

It was a short date, but that’s the way I like first dates. 

It left me wanting more. 

We’ll see if he calls….

(now if you want to overanalyze this date with me here are a few thoughts that keep swirling around the back of my head)

          -it was a double date and he kept talking to the other girl, not excessively but enough that I noticed.  Number one: he could be digging her and not me. Number two: he could be digging me but do the “I don’t know what to say to the girl I like” thing. It happens to me sometimes, so this is what I am hoping it was.

          -We had an awkward doorstep scene, with the other couple staring in the car.  I am a hugger, I love to hug, but I know other people aren’t so I try to accommodate for them.  In this instance I shouldn’t have.  I thought since everyone was watching he would want it short and sweet…. 

Wrong!  I pulled away first!!! I am so upset that I pulled away first!  Totally great hug and I broke it!  And now I can only hope, with what is going on with the paragraph above, that he doesn’t look into the hug, because I really do like him!

          -Last but certainly not least, the girl who set me up on the date told me afterword that…   she was digging my date too!!!  Kill me now. 

No, it’ll be ok, because if he is interested in her then he wasn’t my type anyway. Not that I don’t love her, we are just very different individuals.

So we’ll see what happens….  It’ll be my luck. Remember this and this post....

Searching for Love,

Ava

Pity Date?....

I had an old friend call me up yesterday and tell me that she just got asked out on a date and he asked her if she had a friend that could go with his friend. She then goes on to say that whenever we talk I never have a guy so she wanted me to come.... 

Nice of her to think of me, but stating that I am always single and that's why I should take her up on this date might not be the best compliment.  

Am I going anyway? 


Yes... 


I'll let you know how it goes after this weekend.

I did it!!

I did it, it was hard, but I actually turned a guy down. He took me to a concert, and then called two days later, and asked me out again. The first date was really awkward, he is just off his mission and looking for LOVE! Quick love too. I knew that he was really liking me, so I didn't want to say "yes" to another date and make him think I was digging him too... because I WAS NOT. 

So when he called, I sucked it up and told him it just wasn't going to work. He said "maybe some other time..." and I said "thanks for calling..."  

Think what you like, about me being a jerk about not going with him again... But I do have a rule to at least go on the first one with no judgments. I am just glad that I was brave enough to be true to my feelings and say "no." No, I wont go out with you just because I feel bad for you.  No, I won't go out with your just because you asked, thanks though.

I could tell he was let down, but it is better to be honest then make up excuses right? 

Mrs. Manly

Halloween is one of my very favorite holidays.  It is the only one, other than Christmas, where everyone gets all decked out with decorations.  It is also the only day of the year when it is acceptable for a grown up to dress like a total weirdo, and tap into the childhood days.    

I also have a liking for all things spooky.  Not the satanic possession type, but the “I just jumped out from behind a corner and made you scream” type.   So when a few girls at my apartment complex said they were throwing together a date to go to a haunted house, I said, “count me in!” 

Background Checkpoint:

I have never avoided blind dates.  I know plenty of people who married a blind date.   I have also come to like the non-committal side of blind dates.  You don’t know the person, so you don’t have any of those pre-date assumptions.  Since you don’t know what they like or don’t like you can be your complete self.  If it doesn’t go well then there’s no loss.  You didn’t know them or run in the same circles before, so you don’t have to worry about the “we went on an awkward date” interactions afterword.

One of the girls set me up with this friend of hers.  All I knew was his name and when he showed up I was excited.  He was cute, and muscular.  I thought “heck yes!  I get to hold onto those arms while I’m scared tonight!”  For all intents and purposes of this blog his name is Sam.  Sam Horrigan.  Handsome right?  But it was a good thing I am short because his one big difference from the real Sam Horrigan is he is lacking height. 

We introduced ourselves and waited for the other dates to show up.  While we waited he didn’t say much , so I figured he was shy.  After getting into the car I realized that he wasn’t shy, he just was not interested.  He didn’t want to have a conversation with me, no matter how hard I tried. He would talk to the girl he knew, and then talk about himself to the group, but to me…. Nothing.     

Luckily Sam was gentlemanly enough to pay for us, but shortly after his stroke of chilvary he magically turned into a girl.  Ok, not really, but figuratively.  He made me go first through the dark, haunted halls, and cowered behind me when someone jumped out at us.  Apparently his masculine physique was all just for show. 

When we got back to our apartment building the other dates were talking about doing something since the night was young.  My date promptly got out of the car and announced he had to leave.  I’m not going to say I wasn’t happy about him bailing, even though it left me as a 7^th wheel.    Let’s just say it ended my night, and our dating career. 

Date Success:  FAIL

Though I was impressed with the haunted house, next year I’ll take someone who will let me be the girl on the date.

It is always said that it’s their loss for not trying , but really, he kinda ruined the date for me too.

Pointers:

Even if you have no interest in your date, PRETEND! Fake it till you make it!  Any form of conversation is better than none. 

Also if you are a guy and scared stiff of haunted houses, don’t take a date.